If they often lie to you, they may be a Passive- Aggressive.
If they don't keep their promises, they may be a Passive- Aggressive.
If you say you want it, and they make sure you don't get it, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If you say you don't like it, and they do it more often, they may be a Passive Aggressive.
If they don't tell you what they are mad at, but punish you, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If everything is always your fault, they may be a Passive- Aggressive.
If they give you the silent treatment, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they look at you with haughty eyes, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they often speak to you in a mean tone, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they don't mean what they say or say what they mean, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they are often late or, "forgetful," they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they are blaming, and won't take responsibility for their actions, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they make you out to be the evil person to their family and friends, while portraying themselves as the sweet one or victim, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If the majority of the time they are only nice to you when they want something, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they are making you out to be the crazy one, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they are easily offended by the trivial, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they accuse you of being demanding, controlling, always putting them down, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If you aren't married to your Passive Aggressive, I suggest you run! If you have however taken the marriage vows then, you should realize there is probably nothing you can do to change them. They will never admit they are wrong. They will find ways to blame everything on you and nothing, and I mean nothing, is ever their fault. They will not take any responsibility for the relationship. They do whatever they want to do.
Over the years, you may have found that you can communicate with everyone in your life except the PA. You may suspect your PA punishes you, but you don't ever have an understanding as to why. That's because they never tell you. They don't have the courage to speak what they want or mean. Instead, they make you suffer when you disappoint them. Most likely by now you feel exhausted, confused, and broken-hearted. The PA may have become your obsession. Before you give up or just leave, I have a few suggestions for you to try. I hope you will find these things helpful.
First, you need to refocus. You need to stop obsessing about them. Start thinking about yourself, and what it is you can do for you. You may already get accused by your PA of being self-centered because this is one of the many tactics they use to get at you, so this will be nothing new. Begin to focus on your needs and quit thinking so much about them.
Pray and ask God what it is you can do to move on with your life, to show you what you are good at, and how to restore your confidence. You could even ask Him how you could serve His kingdom. God wants to be with you and to help you.
Another thing you need to stop doing is trying to fix your relationship with the PA. Yes, you heard me right, give up. Give up and give it to God. Surrender. He knows what to work on first. Let Him do it.
If your PA gives you the silent treatment, go on with your life, and enjoy it. Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself because they won't talk to you. Plenty of people out there will. If you don't have anyone else to talk to, then find someone.
I would suggest you keep your conversations to the necessary. Do not let them know anything you want, or don't want, because they will use that against you. If you find you are being punished, trust God to handle them. It was never their right to punish you in the first place. God commands that we love one another. Nowhere in the Bible does it say we are to punish.
Finally, Speak God's word often. His words are living and powerful. Find his promises in the Bible and say them out loud. Pray for your PA too, and watch what God will do. He doesn't want either of you living pitifully. Our Lord didn't send his only son, Jesus, to die for you, so that you could live pathetic lives. He desires for you to live great lives, having big impacts on other people while filled with the Holy Spirit. And don't forget the most important thing of all, God loves you so! He will never leave or forsake you.
If they don't keep their promises, they may be a Passive- Aggressive.
If you say you want it, and they make sure you don't get it, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If you say you don't like it, and they do it more often, they may be a Passive Aggressive.
If they don't tell you what they are mad at, but punish you, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If everything is always your fault, they may be a Passive- Aggressive.
If they give you the silent treatment, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they look at you with haughty eyes, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they often speak to you in a mean tone, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they don't mean what they say or say what they mean, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they are often late or, "forgetful," they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they are blaming, and won't take responsibility for their actions, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they make you out to be the evil person to their family and friends, while portraying themselves as the sweet one or victim, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If the majority of the time they are only nice to you when they want something, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If they are making you out to be the crazy one, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they are easily offended by the trivial, they may be a Passive-Aggressive.
If they accuse you of being demanding, controlling, always putting them down, they may be a Passive -Aggressive.
If you aren't married to your Passive Aggressive, I suggest you run! If you have however taken the marriage vows then, you should realize there is probably nothing you can do to change them. They will never admit they are wrong. They will find ways to blame everything on you and nothing, and I mean nothing, is ever their fault. They will not take any responsibility for the relationship. They do whatever they want to do.
Over the years, you may have found that you can communicate with everyone in your life except the PA. You may suspect your PA punishes you, but you don't ever have an understanding as to why. That's because they never tell you. They don't have the courage to speak what they want or mean. Instead, they make you suffer when you disappoint them. Most likely by now you feel exhausted, confused, and broken-hearted. The PA may have become your obsession. Before you give up or just leave, I have a few suggestions for you to try. I hope you will find these things helpful.
First, you need to refocus. You need to stop obsessing about them. Start thinking about yourself, and what it is you can do for you. You may already get accused by your PA of being self-centered because this is one of the many tactics they use to get at you, so this will be nothing new. Begin to focus on your needs and quit thinking so much about them.
Pray and ask God what it is you can do to move on with your life, to show you what you are good at, and how to restore your confidence. You could even ask Him how you could serve His kingdom. God wants to be with you and to help you.
Another thing you need to stop doing is trying to fix your relationship with the PA. Yes, you heard me right, give up. Give up and give it to God. Surrender. He knows what to work on first. Let Him do it.
If your PA gives you the silent treatment, go on with your life, and enjoy it. Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself because they won't talk to you. Plenty of people out there will. If you don't have anyone else to talk to, then find someone.
I would suggest you keep your conversations to the necessary. Do not let them know anything you want, or don't want, because they will use that against you. If you find you are being punished, trust God to handle them. It was never their right to punish you in the first place. God commands that we love one another. Nowhere in the Bible does it say we are to punish.
Finally, Speak God's word often. His words are living and powerful. Find his promises in the Bible and say them out loud. Pray for your PA too, and watch what God will do. He doesn't want either of you living pitifully. Our Lord didn't send his only son, Jesus, to die for you, so that you could live pathetic lives. He desires for you to live great lives, having big impacts on other people while filled with the Holy Spirit. And don't forget the most important thing of all, God loves you so! He will never leave or forsake you.
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